Out of the billions of people on this Earth, imagine how many different emotions are felt each and every day. What are you feeling today? As I sat in a busy Starbucks this week on a rainy day after taking a nap in my car and answering millions of calls, I couldn’t help but look around and wonder what has happened in that person’s life that has brought them here to that very moment. It’s an ongoing mystery that many don’t think about.
Blogs are a place to show what we love and how or where to find it whether that’s clothes, food, advice. etc. Today on mine I am going to show you my 6 ways of healing and you will understand why.
You know the stories you hear about on the news or in movies and you never imagine that would happen to you? Well as I get older, one thing I’ve learned about life is that you truly never know what the next day brings.
I try to instill positivity and living beautifully in all my posts and actions, but sometimes it’s the real feelings that should be shown some more light. I don’t mean to add a negative connotation to the realness life can bring, but sometimes the fairytale that us girly girls dream upon doesn’t turn out the way we plan, maybe it turns out to become something much greater than our vivid imaginations could dream of.
I don’t know if I believe that bad things come in threes, but I’m sure you are wondering why I fell asleep in my car and was answering millions of calls.
Let me start off by saying loss doesn’t always mean death. Loss is losing anything you love or care for and sometimes you have to lose something or someone to recognize the beauty in what God really wants for you.
Recently, I have paused my senior year of college to come home to a loss I never saw coming, my grandfather passing away and a jobless month ahead; however, I feel like something greater is coming.
I know that something good comes from something bad. I’ve seen it in others, experienced it myself and cling on to it each and every day that I worry about the next step or even if there is a next step…
I want to share with you my 6 steps to how I’m trying to handle loss and how to heal from that so that I can live my fullest each and every day.
- Wake up knowing you are alive and healthy
Mornings are still my favorite time of day and they are my time to let go of what happened yesterday and start a new day fresh. Now that doesn’t erase what happened, but it is all about our perspective and hope for what comes next.
Every day my family said their good morning hellos and I love you goodnights. My sister and I would sit together until it was time for bed and my parents and I would work together as a team. We were all healthy and my father told me each day we are alive and that is a gift itself. Remember your worth on days you feel heaviness upon you because I promise you will shine again.
- Fuel yourself with nutritious foods so that you can feel your best to perform your best for others
As I write this exact point, I am sitting here with two pieces of Ezekiel toast with almond butter and recently, my dad treated me to a huge and amazing dinner at Carabas so that I can return to school with a good meal and memory.
Through any loss, I realized I had to EAT! Hunger affects our moods just as much as anything else so without feeding myself, how would I be able to thing positively or carry out actions my family needed?
I thought I was eating too much at one point and still lost a pound or two along the way. At first, my go-to previous way of self-healing kicked in and I thought, well maybe if I lose some weight I will feel better. Nope. This worried my family more and I’m supposed to help them hurting, not add on to it.
Within days your body can change, but being a light in someone’s life means showing that you are strong and able to show what life can turn into. With that comes food and lots of it.
- Pray for help and hope
When I needed words to say or words to hear I referred to the very best place my heart told me to look…Psalm
- God is near: Psalm 34:18 – The Lord is near to those who are discouraged. He saves those who have lost hope
- God will strengthen you: Psalm 71:20 You made me suffer a lot, but you will bring me back from this deep pit and give me new life.
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I strive to not only pray for myself in this healing process, but others! Pray with someone who will sit with you or speak out loud to get any negative energy off your chest. He is still smiling above no matter how much you yell or whisper during your prayer.
Nick drove down to spend this past week with my family and was my prayer buddy when needed. Find those people, whether it’s a close friend, significant other or another family member who can just be a calm presence in the room.
PS. Rainbows are a sign of hope and just on my second day home, my family looked in the sky and saw the most beautiful rainbow…
- Don’t live an angry life or store bitterness
This is one of the hardest lessons I’ve had to learn but has been the most helpful. We can’t live an angry life. Anger and hatred do not fix anything so praying to let it go and to see grace in others can heal more than you know.
This is not easy so I encourage you to watch this video by Sadie Robertson called “The Breakup”. I’ve watched it over and over within the past few years and hope you will get something from it as well.
- Do things you enjoy
Life is still going on around us. In order to live beautifully, you must do things you enjoy. I love blogging and writing so this week I connected with a blogger friend to post my most recent post. I needed to get away for a little and resulting in activities that add a smile in your day can really help your perspective on the situation. This leads me to my next point…
- Don’t feel guilty for finding happiness again
I felt awful eating and blogging when others I loved were hurting. I had to have others tell me that I can’t feel guilty for smiling because that’s what needs to happen. Don’t let guilt be the master.
- Know you were created to be loved
SOMETHING AMAZING WILL COME FROM IT. Whatever the “it” is. You are created remarkably for a reason and we don’t see why now but one day we will.
Love is one of the most powerful feelings we have. Love can make us do crazy things. Love is a risk worth taking that means giving up a lot of your time for someone else and hoping that the gut feeling you have is the right one.
This week at home, I have realized the importance of family. I feel like we are this invincible force that no one else can get through. I have recognized the importance of communication and truth. When the world throws situations at you that you don’t expect, it’s the people who know you best and will be there no matter what that will help you get through.
Sometimes we have to play the cards we are dealt. Accept the things you can control and let go(d) of the things you can’t…
If you are going through any difficult times and need a spark of light in your life, feel free to share this post, read it or create your own list. We are all uniquely different and I want you to know how LOVED you are.