I love filling my calendar with events, social outings and plans on plans. Seeing my calendar filled with people to see and things to do makes my life feel complete. The thought of doing anything alone is scary. Nobody wants to be that person who shows up to an event without a date or without girlfriends. Years ago I showed up to a dinner and watched a group of girls all walk in together. Why wasn’t I invited? In that moment I self critiqued everything I said that day. I left that restaurant that night by myself with anger and sadness growing within me. No one saw how upset I was because in order to show that I wasn’t alone, I reached out to whoever I could and put all my worth in other people to prove a point. I filled my calendar with events just to prove a point. Years later I write to tell you that the best point to prove is that dancing alone through life is a gift, a gift handed to you to show that you are amazing inside and out without people, pictures or a filled calendar to tell you that.
“Sometimes you need to be alone. Not to be lonely, but to enjoy your free time being you and yourself.”
Some of my best memories have been going to dances with just a group of girlfriends and dancing by myself to the cheesiest throwbacks. The best moments in life happen when you’ve had an awesome day and throw down your windows, let your hair down and scream out whatever is on your mind. The best talks are the ones you have with yourself on long walks at the end of the day. It’s okay to have a break from the world. You deserve that. You deserve to love your beautiful self and to recognize how important you are to this world. Having the most friends, the busiest calendar or best pictures doesn’t define you. Don’t listen to those who tell you that you need to take a date to this event or find someone to complete you. You are already complete. You not only feed your body, but you also fill your heart and mind every day with new thoughts. Self reflect by going to a restaurant by yourself, walk into church and sit by yourself in the front row, take long walks alone, be that person dancing in the corner. If you hit someone in the face while dancing, great! If you eat seconds at that restaurant and order dessert, go for it! At the end of the day, you are who you believe you are and I believe that is wonderful. Time to embrace every bit of you today.
| You are not alone. Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. | John 14:27
P.S. If you are ever home alone and haven’t started or ended your day with a dance party, I highly recommend it.